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Sunday, May 17, 2009

Pondering.....

How much of yourself do you give in a relationship?
Do you pick and choose your battles - only fight the big ones, and blow off the small ones?

Or do you hold your ground, stand up for what you believe in regardless of how the other person feels or how its going to affect them?

I've always been the type in relationships to sit back and nod my head, whether I agreed or not. Its just me, I don't like to create drama or tension - I like to make everyone happy (specifically the H), I just want for everyone to like me. Pathetic right?

I'm trying to change. I'm trying to speak up more, trying to stand up for what I believe in and how I feel. It hasn't been easy, especially because of my pattern to please, please, please. It takes some getting used to. It may not make everyone happy, but it makes me happy. At the end of the day, isn't that what really matters? Making yourself happy? If that means making other people unhappy along the way, is that ok?

5 comments:

Mel Heth said...

Yes, yes, yes. Sometimes it's better to make others unhappy to preserve our own states of contentment. And it's so unhealthy to keep things bottled up inside! Definitely knock that off, sister!

I think most people will still like you - maybe even respect you more - if you stand your ground. So keep up the good work. :)

The Crazy Mama said...

am i rubbing off on u a little?

Semicharmed (Brandi) said...

Mel - It is really unhealthy to keep things in, that much I have learned! I think your right on the respect thing, I'm really trying - but sometimes I feel myself regressing.

Danni - Yep! You and the city of New York! LOL! I'm just sick of putting up with people's crap!

The Crazy Mama said...

OMG, I couldn't hangle NYC. I don't know how you do it. I hate people as it is but then throw in a bunch of crazies and aholes and I just might go postal!

Semicharmed (Brandi) said...

D - you would definitely go postal. People bumping into you all over, crazy tourists....it's just not for me (or you either!). Really it's getting old.