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Tuesday, May 19, 2009

My Marriage is Invalid

According to the Catholic Church. That's what I just had to listen to this afternoon. But let's back it up a little bit. Today sucked basically. The H's step sister passed away last Friday, they think she died of a drug overdose, but can't be sure. Today was the viewing and funeral, and well - it sucked. I have a massive headache that doesn't wanna go away and well I just feel drained.

On our way home, we stopped at a church, in our area that I called yesterday to ask about baptizing the little guy. When I spoke to the woman yesterday, she said under no circumstances can they (meaning the catholic church) refuse to do a baptism for a baby and all we would have to do is come in and register. My SIL Dannielle was married years ago and divorced, and other churches have basically refused to baptize the baby so I thought "awesome, we finally found someone". We went and met with them and well, let's just say it didn't quite go as planned. They said they would do it, but she had to get a letter for her parish with them "agreeing" to release her or something. Before we left my SIL asked about the Godparents, if there was anything they would need to do in order to basically become Godparents (which the H and Dannielle's hubby's SIL are going to be). The woman proceeded to ask us, well - are they both married (yes and yes), were they both married in the catholic church (no and no).....this is where things get interesting. "Since your marriage is considered invalid, they wouldn't be able to be Godparents". Ouch...low blow. Hearing my marriage being called invalid kinda hurt a little.....she proceeded to say it again, this time the H interuppted and said "in the church's eyes". Oh boy, here we go. He managed to stay calm, we ended up thanking her for her time, blah, blah, blah & home we went. I feel bad, because I know Dannielle wants to baptise the babe, before he gets too big. But I have faith one way or the other, it'll happen.


Mel Heth said...

I'll keep my thoughts on the Catholic church to myself... :)

Semicharmed (Brandi) said...

Mel - please share them freely. I'm sure we're both on the same page. The funny thing is before all of this, on our way to the church I actually contemplated registering and getting christened (I was never baptized).
Not anymore.