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Monday, April 27, 2009

The big 3-0

Tomorrow's my big 3-0, and ummm....I'm not sure how I feel about it yet. Birthday's always tend to make me sad for some reason. So I'm trying to keep it together.

There's so much I thought I would have had done by now.
Like have a baby (or two), own a home, maybe have a job that I loved or a waistline that I could actually see, alas - no go.

But I do have a home, a beautiful family, a husband who is far more than I ever could have asked for, step kids who even though I think have given me a grey hair or two are pretty awesome. I have a sister in law, who is my rock and probably one of my very best friends and the one person aside from my hubby who let's me just be me.
I have a nephew who melts my heart, just by the sight of his little red head and turkey legs.
I have friends, who are crazy, loud, obnoxious, fiercly loyal and sometimes dramatic but I can't imagine my life without them. I have a job, that may not be an ideal situation, but I love what I do & most people aren't fortunate enough to be able to say that.
I am beyond blessed, truly I know that.
When I sit back and think about it life, yeah.....it's pretty fantastic - so I shouldn't complain. Maybe 30 will be my best year so far, so here's to growing older and new adventures & maybe babies and waistlines. HA!

I saw this somewhere a while ago, I don't remember where I found it but I think it's fitting:

By 30 you should know:
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
2. How you feel about having kids.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn't like to happen next.
6. The names of: the secretary of state, your great-grandmother and the best tailor in town.
7. How to live alone, even if you don't like to.
8. How to take control of your own birthday.
9. That you can't change the length of your calves, the width of your hips or the nature of your parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it's over.
11. What you would and wouldn't do for money or love.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs or not flossing for very long.
13. Who you can trust, who you can't and why you shouldn't take it personally.
14. Not to apologize for something that isn't your fault.
15. Why they say life begins at 30.

By 30 you should have:
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you've come.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour. 4. A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you're not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you're content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy enough that you're looking to forward to retelling it in your old age.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age—and some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An e-mail address, a voice mailbox and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to but you.
9. A résume that is not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it. 13. The belief that you deserve it.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don't get better after 30.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship and all those other facets of life that do get better

So, thirty huh?? Maybe it's not so bad afterall. They say thirties are the new twenties right?? Well, bring it on - but maybe with a side of red wine, or a martini, or maybe both. Hell, it is my birthday afterall!!


2 comments:

Daily dose of Dana said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BRANDI!!!! I WANT TO TELL YOU I CRIED FOR 3 DAYS WHEN I TURNED 30, I FEALT LIKE SUCH A LOOSER, AND FEALT LIKE I COULDN'T IGNORE IMPORTANT THINGS ANYMORE BECAUSE I WAS TOO OLD, THIS MADE ME SO SAD, NOW AT 32 I AM SOOOOO FINE WITH IT - I HAVE OPTED OUT OF CELEBRATING BUT I TRUELY BELIEVE AS A WOMAN IN MY EARLY 30'S I HAVE FINALLY FIGURED OUT WHO I AM AND MY LIFE IS FINALLY FEELING COMPLETE - SO EMBRACE IT GIRL ALL THE CRAP THAT CONFUSED YOU IN YOUR 20'S IS GOING TO SUDDENLY BECOME CLEAR!!! YOU CAN LOOK FORWARD TO LOTS OF "AH-HAAA" MOMENTS!!! HAVE A BLAST!!!

Semicharmed said...

Dana - THANK YOU! Are you serious?? That's how I was the few days before, but then I woke up on my birthday and felt like I had the world by the balls (to put it nicely). I agree! I can't say I'm there, 100 percent, but I'm on my way & that feels incredible!