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Saturday, May 23, 2009

Things I've Learned in The Past Week


  • That little guy, is going to have my heart until the day I die, I mean seriously - how could you not love him? Look at him.
  • When a guy with metal stakes through both of his ears, tells you getting your nose pierced isn't gonna hurt at all.... yeah, well he's lying
  • When you abuse your body long enough, eventually it's going to give out on you
  • Contrary to popular belief time, doesn't heal all wounds
  • No matter how hard you try sometimes, you are never going to please everyone - there are just some people that are un-pleasable and that's ok
  • Some people thrive on drama, don't let them tell you they have "changed" because chances are they haven't. Old habits are hard to break.
  • If you're having an affair with a married man, who's breaking up his family to be with you - YOU ARE the other woman, no matter how hard you try to tell yourself you AREN'T - he IS leaving her for another woman - YOU
  • Life isn't slowing down, time to take advantage of it while we can.
  • Hearing my nephew giggle, and make "farting" noises, is quite possibly heaven on earth
  • I don't like basketball, or UFC or any of that other crap the H makes me watch
  • Avocado's are really GOOD
  • Guys should always hold the door open for a lady, especially when she's maneuvering a stroller
  • Mat Kearney makes me happy, so do Jason Mraz, Jack Johnson, Rob Thomas and Ray Lamontagne
  • Mani/Pedi days are pretty incredible - especially when shared with your bff
  • Sometimes, all you really need is love - the rest is just icing on the cake



Tuesday, May 19, 2009

My Marriage is Invalid

According to the Catholic Church. That's what I just had to listen to this afternoon. But let's back it up a little bit. Today sucked basically. The H's step sister passed away last Friday, they think she died of a drug overdose, but can't be sure. Today was the viewing and funeral, and well - it sucked. I have a massive headache that doesn't wanna go away and well I just feel drained.

On our way home, we stopped at a church, in our area that I called yesterday to ask about baptizing the little guy. When I spoke to the woman yesterday, she said under no circumstances can they (meaning the catholic church) refuse to do a baptism for a baby and all we would have to do is come in and register. My SIL Dannielle was married years ago and divorced, and other churches have basically refused to baptize the baby so I thought "awesome, we finally found someone". We went and met with them and well, let's just say it didn't quite go as planned. They said they would do it, but she had to get a letter for her parish with them "agreeing" to release her or something. Before we left my SIL asked about the Godparents, if there was anything they would need to do in order to basically become Godparents (which the H and Dannielle's hubby's SIL are going to be). The woman proceeded to ask us, well - are they both married (yes and yes), were they both married in the catholic church (no and no).....this is where things get interesting. "Since your marriage is considered invalid, they wouldn't be able to be Godparents". Ouch...low blow. Hearing my marriage being called invalid kinda hurt a little.....she proceeded to say it again, this time the H interuppted and said "in the church's eyes". Oh boy, here we go. He managed to stay calm, we ended up thanking her for her time, blah, blah, blah & home we went. I feel bad, because I know Dannielle wants to baptise the babe, before he gets too big. But I have faith one way or the other, it'll happen.

Sunday, May 17, 2009

Pondering.....

How much of yourself do you give in a relationship?
Do you pick and choose your battles - only fight the big ones, and blow off the small ones?

Or do you hold your ground, stand up for what you believe in regardless of how the other person feels or how its going to affect them?

I've always been the type in relationships to sit back and nod my head, whether I agreed or not. Its just me, I don't like to create drama or tension - I like to make everyone happy (specifically the H), I just want for everyone to like me. Pathetic right?

I'm trying to change. I'm trying to speak up more, trying to stand up for what I believe in and how I feel. It hasn't been easy, especially because of my pattern to please, please, please. It takes some getting used to. It may not make everyone happy, but it makes me happy. At the end of the day, isn't that what really matters? Making yourself happy? If that means making other people unhappy along the way, is that ok?